Comments for Not a Girl, Not Yet a Wino

Comment on Instincts by sizzle

sizzle — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 19:52:11 +0000

Oh how I know this feeling. It’s so hard to be upfront when you don’t want to hurt a person’s feelings. I usually waited until the next contact to let them down. Seemed somehow less hurtful to do it without looking at them. And even when they are coming on too strong or I know I don’t like them that way within the first 5 minutes of meeting them.

I am, however, still giggling that you said “rub privates”.

Comment on Instincts by Beth

Beth — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 00:04:07 +0000

Sorry you had to go through that! It’s rather amazing how someone can be so clueless that the other person isn’t interested – I mean, the first time you turned your head should have been more than enough for him to see that. Who the hell does he think he is? Definitely a lesson in trusting your instincts!

Comment on Instincts by kris

kris — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 01:02:43 +0000

I can’t tell you how much I appreciate y’all *getting* it. Nathan, you are just so kind. Thank you.

Comment on Instincts by Juli

Juli — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 21:33:18 +0000

Give me your hands, in a bar?! Ick! This is exactly why I’m not dating.

Comment on Instincts by Shan

Shan — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 13:30:50 +0000

Oh gosh, I’ve had those dates too where I realize his perception is so incongruent with mine that this is going to be awkward. Sorry he went in for the kiss (twice).

There is an interesting book by Becker “The Gift of Fear”…it’s on the extreme side examining per-cursor behaviours to violence but an underlying theme is trusting your instinct.

Comment on Instincts by Nathan Pralle

Nathan Pralle — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 22:01:53 +0000

It frustrates me to no end that this sort of troglodyte even *exists* any more in this age of supposed ‘enlightenment’ and education — aren’t we all supposed to be better in tune with each other and our surroundings? How can someone misinterpret — or more probably, ignore — whatever signals coming from the other party that indicate, “back off or I’m coming at you with a hatchet”? It simply astounds me.

And then…THEN…there is this gigantic part of myself which wants so very desperately to march up to Malekind in general, grab it by the collar, shake it like a British nanny, and yell, “Don’t you SEE what she is!?? What she entails? You have a rare opportunity, good sir, to commiserate with what many consider a prime example of a wonderful being. The beauty of her face, while impressive, is *nothing* compared to the shining of her mind and her heart, and the best you can muster up for your prized moment in the sun with this precious jewel of humanity is a FUCKING BASEBALL CAP!!!???”

Comment on Instincts by auntie

auntie — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 18:09:48 +0000

I love this: “I imagine that someone might approach me street side with a knife and that I might question my questioning of his intentions. Maybe he’s got a charcuterie plate in the car?” Because really, we don’t use the word charcuterie enough!!

And I’ve been on that same date. I always wonder how two people can have such a completely different interpretation of what’s happening in a moment. Oh, you wanted to kiss me? Um, no I really don’t even want to touch you…EVER.

Comment on Instincts by Megan

Megan — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 16:28:50 +0000

Oh god. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt, wore it, washed it 1,000 times, threw it out and got another one.

Comment on Instincts by Madeleine

Madeleine — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 06:46:38 +0000

I do this same thing with strangers on dates; why do we worry about not hurting a stranger’s feelings? Better luck next time, sweets. xo

Comment on Instincts by Laurie

Laurie — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 01:13:10 +0000

Now see, I feel eerily the same way in everyday interactions–coopted responsibility for other peoples’ feelings. But this time I just wish I could take away any of that feeling for you, because hey, toolbag, dress nicer and more importantly, back up off of my friend.

It’s hard to know that for ourselves, sometimes, and even harder to say it. Should there ever unthinkably be a next time, I think you’ll be right on time.

Comment on Lessons lived by gorillabuns

gorillabuns — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 07:02:40 +0000

you were speaking of me, no? well, i do love a good cocktail and well…. that is about it….

a beautiful list. one we should all live by but sadly we don’t. because most of us haven’t figured out we are all slowly dying.

Cheers!

Comment on Lessons lived by Michelle Koechle

Michelle Koechle — Mon, 19 Dec 2011 06:16:13 +0000

I hope this means you’ll be making more regular appearances on your blog. :)

No, but seriously…I love this post and all points are true. I especially agree with the photography one, being a photographer myself. When I’m in your area, I’m taking photos of you and if you tell me, “No,” I will reference this post.

Comment on Lessons lived by Kristin

Kristin — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 21:35:52 +0000

One of your BEST posts EVER. Thank you for sharing these thoughts – you brightened my day and probably improved my 2012.

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Comment on Lessons lived by Libby

Libby — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 22:44:13 +0000

A good reminder on how to live before you die. And I really do need to start letting people take my picture. At least for my kid’s sake.

Comment on Lessons lived by Jeane

Jeane — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 22:26:40 +0000

What a wonderful post! Thank you. I recently lost a friend and he fit everyone of your points. I miss him but his life is still an inspiration!

Comment on Lessons lived by Shan

Shan — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 01:38:54 +0000

These lessons are so true and valuable…I think I’ll have to print and post them. Thanks!

Comment on Lessons lived by Nathan Pralle

Nathan Pralle — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 18:51:45 +0000

An awesome list that we would all do well to remember and emulate. Thank you.

Comment on Lessons lived by Megan

Megan — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 15:54:33 +0000

Lovely. Great list. Thanks for sharing it.

Comment on Lessons lived by Just Jane

Just Jane — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 15:29:37 +0000

This is such a great list!

I’m working on #3. Really, truly, I am.

Comment on Lessons lived by Beth

Beth — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 04:39:12 +0000

Great summary, Kris. And a great reminder to all of us about living well.

I went to a Living Wake this year for a friend of mine who was dying of cancer and knew he didn’t have much time left. And it was amazing. It was a chance for him to hear how he’d touched the lives of so many people in so many profound ways and also a chance to see how many people were going to be there for his wife and children after he was gone. Near the end, he said he wasn’t afraid to die, but he was sad that he wouldn’t be there to support his family through their lives. I think knowing that we’d all be here for them after he went was a bit of a comfort. Memorials for the living like this should totally be mandatory!

Comment on Lessons lived by Lexa

Lexa — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 04:05:02 +0000

I so very much wish google reader still had the share option. I would share this a thousand times.

Comment on Lessons lived by Kristen

Kristen — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 02:19:51 +0000

I went to a memorial service today too. She was everyone one of these things. She must have been one hell of a woman and I did’nt even know her. She was a MIL of one of my girlfriends. But I bawled tears the whole time imagining an amazing life lived and hoping I was doing mine with equal flare. So much to think about.

Comment on Always by Melina

Melina — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 15:43:06 +0000

FNL was the greatest show ever. I even now have a Clear eyes, full heart t-shirt (which isn’t really me to wear a TV based tee). It will forever be in my heart because I “discovered” the first three seasons on netflix and watched it as I fed my first-born. I ended up just staying up and watching them even after my spawn went back to sleep.

What I want to know is, did anyone else cry or get choked up EVERY EPISODE??? Honestly, I think I have a problem.

Comment on A-List by Tomas Dzurilla

Tomas Dzurilla — Sat, 26 Nov 2011 18:53:37 +0000

You have forgotten the Bundy’s from “Married with Children”:

Al Bundy, Peg Bundy, Kelly Bundy, Bud Bundy, and their chicken neighbor Marcy and her Husband (Steve or Jeferson).

Merry Christmas.