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Comment on On mending by yknot

yknot — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 05:05:36 +0000

I can’t break up with my significant other- she will kill,butcher & eat me & bury the inedible bits in the garden out back! I suspect she’s done it before- she has a big freezer in the garage with a lock on it. Wait, I think she’s coming- see you later, I hope…

Comment on On mending by Gooseberried

Gooseberried — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:42:25 +0000

Nice post! It’s totally true. Women are insane! I did all those things to one of my ex-boyfriends and I feel like such an idiot now when I reflect back. So ashamed.

Comment on On mending by Keb

Keb — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:46:02 +0000

Thanks lady. <3

Comment on We’re moving . . . We’re moving by suz

suz — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:30:53 +0000

learning to knit? or sew?

becoming a tourist for the day (especially in your neck of the woods)

picking a neighborhood you don’t normally go to an exploring

In San Francisco, where I live, there is a great book called something like “Stairways of San Francisco” with about 15 walking tours that specifically go up and down the many public stairs in our hilly city. I wonder if there isn’t some sort of book like that for DC? (probably without the stairways). or if your group could do some research and create one?

I also particularly like high school plays when they are offered to the public. Nothing like seeing a nervous high schooler to remind me how great it is to be an adult (well, sort of!)

Comment on On mending by Gwen

Gwen — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:54:53 +0000

Yes.

Life does go on, for good … and not so good.

I remember your foray into softball. Those were good times. For me, anyway.

Comment on On mending by Goon Squad Sarah

Goon Squad Sarah — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:29:15 +0000

As always, well said.

Comment on On mending by Brian

Brian — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:45:30 +0000

It is always darkest before the dawn…

Comment on On mending by Melina

Melina — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:56:57 +0000

The “don’t bring the crazy” part was written just for me (the me of 2003, not the now me). I wish I had read this post then because I think I went completely insane for a little there. I just remember thinking it felt right at the time ha ha…it definitely wasn’t.

Comment on On mending by Rita

Rita — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:37:07 +0000

Thank you Kris. Well timed here. *sigh*

Comment on On mending by Ally

Ally — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:52:17 +0000

You’re right, I haven’t been paying close attention to Formspring… but I’m so glad you posted that. It’s beautifully written.

Comment on On mending by Jennie

Jennie — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:06:23 +0000

Perfect post.

Comment on On mending by Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:51:26 +0000

This has come at the perfect time. Thanks for being SO awesome that you knew that. (Or something.)

Nicely written!

Comment on On mending by Sarah in Ottawa

Sarah in Ottawa — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:14:32 +0000

What a great post! The point you make about independent growth is a great one, and very true in my life. Dave (touchyoulast Dave) and I have been together for nearly 15 years, but we had a break that lastest for 2 years (almost to the day). The independent growth we each had during that period was completely invaluable. It solidified in each of our eyes that we were, in fact, much closer to the “best version of ourselves” that the other had always seen. This confidence and self-knowledge made our reunion that much more sweet and our subsequent growth together so much more meaningful (and easy!).

Comment on On mending by Kate

Kate — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:34:30 +0000

That very last sentence is what I’ve been trying to tell myself for the past year. This post applies to oh so many parts of life. Beautifully written!

Comment on On mending by Nathan Pralle

Nathan Pralle — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:21:07 +0000

A nice, wise writeup, Kris. You’ve pretty much hit the nail on the head with all of it.

Comment on On mending by kris

kris — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:15:11 +0000

Precisely. :)

Comment on On mending by Adam P. Knave

Adam P. Knave — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:12:59 +0000

Well said. I do wonder, though, at the “do stuff you couldn’t do before” bit though. I mean it kinda couldn’t have been a great relationship if there were that many things that would make a list like that…

Comment on On mending by BigSis

BigSis — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:35:18 +0000

EXCELLENT post. Well said.

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Not a Girl, Not Yet a Wino » On mending — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:33:38 +0000

[...] to myself again. What did that involve? For me, it was testing boundaries and pushing myself. I met more bloggers in person. At the age of 33, I took swimming lessons. I joined a softball team, a sport I considered having [...]

Comment on Why You Should Never Write About Happiness by Not a Girl, Not Yet a Wino » On mending

Not a Girl, Not Yet a Wino » On mending — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:30:43 +0000

[...] I joined a softball team, a sport I considered having contributed to my social phobia as a youth. And I cried when I needed to, sometimes with the car pulled over on the side of the road. I built myself back up by doing. And interestingly enough, so did he. We both did more great things [...]

Comment on Guppy by Not a Girl, Not Yet a Wino » On mending

Not a Girl, Not Yet a Wino » On mending — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 13:29:39 +0000

[...] me, it was testing boundaries and pushing myself. I met more bloggers in person. At the age of 33, I took swimming lessons. I joined a softball team, a sport I considered having contributed to my social phobia as a youth. [...]

Comment on We’re moving . . . We’re moving by brookem

brookem — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 03:35:23 +0000

strip tease lessons?
volunteering for a local road race. you’ll be moving around and may even find you want to do one!

Comment on On missing by Pure Klass

Pure Klass — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 17:06:41 +0000

This is amazing. It has ripped my heart out, and I keep coming back to it. If only there were better words for “god, that sucks, I (think I) know how you feel and wish I could have written this.”

Comment on On missing by Beth

Beth — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 15:10:26 +0000

These moments come to me in sleep, in dreams. Like it all never happened, that we were able to make our way through it and that all is still the same. He’s still the same person, we are still the same couple, and for a moment, I remember what it was like to live without the regret and “what ifs” that I am stuck with now.

Now I’m trying to live the life I think will one day make me feel like I’ve made it through and that I’ve made something for myself. I’m making decisions I hope will start to feel normal and that won’t feel so forced anymore. Decisions that will make the Mary-Sunshine-Cheerleader feel truly happy again. “Fake it til you feel it” – one of these days I hope to feel it again.

(I’ve been reading for quite some time and as “stalker” as it may seem, I feel like we live somewhat parallel lives – your words hit me like a brick wall at times, and I’m not even sure I’m translating them correctly, but they speak to me all the same. Thank you)

From a fellow DC Girl,
Beth

Comment on We’re moving . . . We’re moving by regsss

regsss — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 14:35:03 +0000

I play in a tennis league that is not super competitive, it is a great way to meet new people and have some fun.