Comments on: On mending

By: Trapped

Trapped — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 15:55:16 +0000

You forgot to say on your “What you do” section – curl up in the corner and try and will your heart to stop beating

By: Lemon Gloria

Lemon Gloria — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 13:13:27 +0000

This was fantastic. The ideal for letting go, moving on, growing, being a healthy, whole person. I wish I could say that this was my recipe for dealing with my biggest breakup, that I behaved well, that I made sure he could respect me. However. We both had bad behavior – but mine was worse. I look back on those days and I am so not proud…and now after years of no contact we are forming a friendship and I am really and truly delighted.

By: auntie

auntie — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:54:23 +0000

isn’t that the best feeling, when you finally see that old boyfriend – whether on purpose or accident – and it feels GOOD to see him…not in a wistful i-wish-he-still-loved-me kind of way, but in a wow-its-good-to-catch-up-with-him-and-then-walk-away kind of way. the first time that happened to me i remember thinking “so THIS is what it feels like to really be over someone!” marvelous.

also, i wonder how many more pieces (??) of punctuation i could have fit into that paragraph…

By: Allie

Allie — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:10:41 +0000

I understand this post completely. I broke off an engagement in 2004 and wallowed waaaayyy too long. I feel like I’m going through a whole different process with the breaking off of some friendships (though it was a long time coming) and, this time, I’ve been quick to rebuild. Still some pain there, but the renewal feels great.

By: yknot

yknot — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 05:05:36 +0000

I can’t break up with my significant other- she will kill,butcher & eat me & bury the inedible bits in the garden out back! I suspect she’s done it before- she has a big freezer in the garage with a lock on it. Wait, I think she’s coming- see you later, I hope…

By: Gooseberried

Gooseberried — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 04:42:25 +0000

Nice post! It’s totally true. Women are insane! I did all those things to one of my ex-boyfriends and I feel like such an idiot now when I reflect back. So ashamed.

By: Keb

Keb — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 22:46:02 +0000

Thanks lady. <3

By: Gwen

Gwen — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:54:53 +0000

Yes.

Life does go on, for good … and not so good.

I remember your foray into softball. Those were good times. For me, anyway.

By: Goon Squad Sarah

Goon Squad Sarah — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 21:29:15 +0000

As always, well said.

By: Brian

Brian — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 20:45:30 +0000

It is always darkest before the dawn…

By: Melina

Melina — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:56:57 +0000

The “don’t bring the crazy” part was written just for me (the me of 2003, not the now me). I wish I had read this post then because I think I went completely insane for a little there. I just remember thinking it felt right at the time ha ha…it definitely wasn’t.

By: Rita

Rita — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:37:07 +0000

Thank you Kris. Well timed here. *sigh*

By: Ally

Ally — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:52:17 +0000

You’re right, I haven’t been paying close attention to Formspring… but I’m so glad you posted that. It’s beautifully written.

By: Jennie

Jennie — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 17:06:23 +0000

Perfect post.

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:51:26 +0000

This has come at the perfect time. Thanks for being SO awesome that you knew that. (Or something.)

Nicely written!

By: Sarah in Ottawa

Sarah in Ottawa — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:14:32 +0000

What a great post! The point you make about independent growth is a great one, and very true in my life. Dave (touchyoulast Dave) and I have been together for nearly 15 years, but we had a break that lastest for 2 years (almost to the day). The independent growth we each had during that period was completely invaluable. It solidified in each of our eyes that we were, in fact, much closer to the “best version of ourselves” that the other had always seen. This confidence and self-knowledge made our reunion that much more sweet and our subsequent growth together so much more meaningful (and easy!).

By: Kate

Kate — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:34:30 +0000

That very last sentence is what I’ve been trying to tell myself for the past year. This post applies to oh so many parts of life. Beautifully written!

By: Nathan Pralle

Nathan Pralle — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:21:07 +0000

A nice, wise writeup, Kris. You’ve pretty much hit the nail on the head with all of it.

By: kris

kris — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:15:11 +0000

Precisely. :)

By: Adam P. Knave

Adam P. Knave — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 15:12:59 +0000

Well said. I do wonder, though, at the “do stuff you couldn’t do before” bit though. I mean it kinda couldn’t have been a great relationship if there were that many things that would make a list like that…

By: BigSis

BigSis — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:35:18 +0000

EXCELLENT post. Well said.