Comments on: Disregard

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 19:49:21 +0000

This made my heart hurt. Literally. I had to push on my chestbone.

Your intricately expressed remorse is the most poignant indication of your intentions always have been “best.”

By: John

John — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 16:01:46 +0000

It’s great that we have good intentions, but at the end of the day we’re human beings and human beings are leaky vessels. Try as we might not to slip up or fall into the trap of believing our own bullshit, we’ll never be able to completely eradicate thoughts, words, or actions that leave us feeling mortified (or worse). If we could do this, we would be something greater than what we are.

By: foundinidaho

foundinidaho — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 03:31:46 +0000

And, Kris, your father would still say “I love you, and you will do better next time, I know it.”

I know what you mean. And it’s hard, but remind yourself of what your dad (I think, from what you’ve written of him) would say to you now. Dust yourself off and start all over again.

By: Del-V

Del-V — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 12:02:11 +0000

Every scar has a story.

By: becky

becky — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 04:20:21 +0000

Yeah, I think I’ve been suffering from that malady recently, too.

I wasn’t this way previously. What happened to that unselfish girl, the one who cared for everyone around her? I don’t know. I’m still looking for her.

By: MereCat

MereCat — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 18:39:25 +0000

Sometimes we just get ahead of ourselves, and the result is usually thoughtlessness. You can fix it. Your post was a beautiful apology, so go with it.

By: EDW

EDW — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 04:41:49 +0000

I did something careless once that impacted a very good family friend. When I called her, trying not to cry since this was her hurt and not mine, she said to me “Liz, I once did something like this, hurt a friend. And she said ‘I know you love me and would never do anything purposely to hurt me’ And so I say this to you.”

That level of forgiveness and understanding has carried me through every subsequent mistake I’ve made. I know you were careless and not purposefully hurtful. To me, those intentions matter.

By: Ryane

Ryane — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 04:12:58 +0000

Sometimes I think it’s easiest to be sloppy and careless of people whom we most care about. Not because we don’t love them or intend to be hurtful, but because it’s where we are in our life and we need them – our friends and loved ones – to understand that and still love us for it regardless. Letting someone down is never easy; I’ve done, everyone has done it; it’s how you handle it that shows who you really are, K. Having done so is just a symptom of other things going on in your life…it’s not the summation of you. I never knew your Dad, but I do know you, and I can only imagine he would be most impressed and proud of the woman I know. I know that I am! =-)

By: Bruce

Bruce — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 20:05:29 +0000

Most people want to do the right thing, believing they are until they look in the rearview mirror and see the wreckage behind them. It’s important to realise our mistake and make it as right as we can. As when we were 5 and put the fork in the wall socket, we recognise what we did, cry, and not do it again. Well, not more than a couple of times.

You are clearly a good person and not a pioneer in the events in life, others have blazed the trail for you. Just know that along the path are other good people that will give you a glass of wine when you need it.

My father was never disappointed in learning of my mistakes, only of my not learning from them.

By: cdp

cdp — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 20:04:38 +0000

Although I’ve disappeared from life in general, I still keep up with you.

We are, not surprisingly, in like, exactly the same place right now. For starters, I heart you. What I wonder is, how do we learn to not do the same things again? And, is this bottom, or is it still going to get worse?

You are a strong woman. You have enough balls to realize and admit the mistakes you have made. I know it hurts like hell. I think you would have more to be concerned about, frankly, if it didn’t.

My mom told me the other day that when things get bad, I should just know that my Nanny is watching over me. What I wanted to tell her was that, when things get bad, I wish I could stop thinking about how ashamed she would be. Just remember that your dad knew and loved you as a whole person, and we are not measured by our mistakes. Don’t let the mistakes define you. That is not how your father would see it. You are not your failures. You are strong and you are, without question, a good person. I’m not sure this is a coherent comment, but my main thought is that you are a good person. And your father loved you just as you are, not by measure of your mistakes. I think at some point we all have to learn how to be the kind of person we can be proud of. It’s an uphill battle, but you are good people, and you will be okay. Believe.

By: The Monkey King

The Monkey King — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 16:12:05 +0000

I’m sorry for everyone involved, and most especially you. I have faith that no matter how things transpire, they are moving towards the good. I have even more faith that you have an incredibly happy and joy-full life ahead of you. Can’t wait to see what’s next.

By: Nathan Pralle

Nathan Pralle — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 15:39:31 +0000

I am of the opinion that those gone ahead of us get the privilege of seeing all that we are, in every way, and from every angle. I hope that they see both my reasonings and my failures and somehow they all wash out in the end.

By: Finn

Finn — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 15:28:16 +0000

Everyone screws up once in awhile. Make amends if possible, find the lesson, then forgive yourself. You are worth it; if you weren’t you wouldn’t feel bad about it.