Comments on: Depths (Or No Hotline Number Needed, Dear Readers; It’s Simply a Slice of Time) http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/ Thu, 02 Feb 2012 19:52:11 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: hclark http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18642 hclark Thu, 15 Jan 2009 21:36:12 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18642 It's one of the things lacking on the internet . . . the comforting silence of human companionship. Be well. It’s one of the things lacking on the internet . . . the comforting silence of human companionship. Be well.

]]> By: freckledk http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18637 freckledk Thu, 15 Jan 2009 17:17:48 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18637 I don't envy you this anniversary. I've had far too many of them and, although they do get easier, I know that they'll never be easy. My heart goes out to you, Cookie. Even if it doesn't help you right now, know that you are loved. I don’t envy you this anniversary. I’ve had far too many of them and, although they do get easier, I know that they’ll never be easy.

My heart goes out to you, Cookie. Even if it doesn’t help you right now, know that you are loved.

]]> By: maggie, dammit http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18634 maggie, dammit Thu, 15 Jan 2009 16:50:26 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18634 If I could share every single post you write in Google Reader I would; but then no one would listen to me, it would be like those high school kids who higlight every single thing on the damn page so nothing stands out anymore at all. But you are amazing, even in the depths. If I could share every single post you write in Google Reader I would; but then no one would listen to me, it would be like those high school kids who higlight every single thing on the damn page so nothing stands out anymore at all.

But you are amazing, even in the depths.

]]> By: gorillabuns http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18622 gorillabuns Wed, 14 Jan 2009 19:43:57 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18622 It's like you baited me to talk even though you told me not to. **Hugs** It’s like you baited me to talk even though you told me not to.

**Hugs**

]]> By: Del-V http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18614 Del-V Tue, 13 Jan 2009 18:56:58 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18614 Nessun maggior dolore che ricordarsi del tempo felice ne la miseria --Dante Nessun maggior dolore che ricordarsi del tempo felice ne la miseria

–Dante

]]> By: Lindaleep http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18613 Lindaleep Tue, 13 Jan 2009 17:42:07 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18613 I'm so sorry you are hurting-I so *get* the FB conundrum-hell, I just relinquished my account temporarily because I got so sick of everyone being so freakin' happy! It doesn't help that it's January-the most depressing month of all. I've been there (my dad, too)-am there (not sure why!)-and hope to get out of there too! *Hugs* and *Wine* I’m so sorry you are hurting-I so *get* the FB conundrum-hell, I just relinquished my account temporarily because I got so sick of everyone being so freakin’ happy! It doesn’t help that it’s January-the most depressing month of all. I’ve been there (my dad, too)-am there (not sure why!)-and hope to get out of there too! *Hugs* and *Wine*

]]> By: Hilary http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18611 Hilary Tue, 13 Jan 2009 15:06:47 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18611 -not saying anything at all- -not saying anything at all-

]]> By: m2z2006 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18606 m2z2006 Tue, 13 Jan 2009 13:45:32 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18606 Here's me...not saying anything at all. And I hope you know what I'm saying. Here’s me…not saying anything at all. And I hope you know what I’m saying.

]]> By: Melina http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18605 Melina Tue, 13 Jan 2009 12:47:37 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18605 I can't remember which anniversary is worse...oh wait, I remember, they all suck. A lot. I kept my dad's ashes so I think for the first anniversary, I pulled them out, hugged them, cried and talked to him (I still talk to him but less now that I'm married and someone else is in the house to hear me). I can't offer anything good or constructive to do because I just tend to isolate myself from everyone and cry. It makes me feel better and I guess that's all that matters. I can’t remember which anniversary is worse…oh wait, I remember, they all suck. A lot. I kept my dad’s ashes so I think for the first anniversary, I pulled them out, hugged them, cried and talked to him (I still talk to him but less now that I’m married and someone else is in the house to hear me). I can’t offer anything good or constructive to do because I just tend to isolate myself from everyone and cry. It makes me feel better and I guess that’s all that matters.

]]> By: wildbill http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18604 wildbill Tue, 13 Jan 2009 12:40:21 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18604 Don't make me steal your Diet Coke! Don’t make me steal your Diet Coke!

]]> By: Kenneth http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18598 Kenneth Tue, 13 Jan 2009 02:30:25 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18598 That all sucks. When I feel bad, I turn to Zachariah and Snowy. You can partake if you want. That all sucks. When I feel bad, I turn to Zachariah and Snowy. You can partake if you want.

]]> By: Rhi http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18597 Rhi Tue, 13 Jan 2009 01:24:46 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18597 I'm coming up on the 1st anniversary of my Grandmother's death and I'm dreading it. And, just for the record - I'm sick of people giving advice on how to grieve. It looks different for everyone. What works for me may not work for you, and vice versa. Anyway, I'm hoping you're able to find some peace and do whatever it is you need to do to heal your heart. I’m coming up on the 1st anniversary of my Grandmother’s death and I’m dreading it. And, just for the record – I’m sick of people giving advice on how to grieve. It looks different for everyone. What works for me may not work for you, and vice versa.

Anyway, I’m hoping you’re able to find some peace and do whatever it is you need to do to heal your heart.

]]> By: foundinidaho http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18596 foundinidaho Tue, 13 Jan 2009 01:12:25 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18596 How about still drinking more than I should, 20 lbs heavier than I want to be and my dad has to have more surgery and probably wishes he would die (I, however, disagree with him)? Oh, the pets, kids and husband are healthy. I really feel for you, Kris. I fear I may be going through this same thing before too long and if I'm this ripped up on your behalf, I hate to think what I'm going to be like on my own. My thoughts and prayers are with you. How about still drinking more than I should, 20 lbs heavier than I want to be and my dad has to have more surgery and probably wishes he would die (I, however, disagree with him)? Oh, the pets, kids and husband are healthy.

I really feel for you, Kris. I fear I may be going through this same thing before too long and if I’m this ripped up on your behalf, I hate to think what I’m going to be like on my own.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

]]> By: KB http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18595 KB Tue, 13 Jan 2009 00:35:08 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18595 Oh, man, I totally feel you on this one. No date, still 20 lbs too heavy, and the dogs are healthy! Oh, and I'm extremely bitter, too, and I don't care who knows it. Oh, man, I totally feel you on this one. No date, still 20 lbs too heavy, and the dogs are healthy!

Oh, and I’m extremely bitter, too, and I don’t care who knows it.

]]> By: bandick http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18591 bandick Mon, 12 Jan 2009 22:29:28 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18591 I'm can't wait for t2ed's band to come to town. I heard they're going to be touring with Emotional Funk. I’m can’t wait for t2ed’s band to come to town. I heard they’re going to be touring with Emotional Funk.

]]> By: SMurF http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18590 SMurF Mon, 12 Jan 2009 22:26:57 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18590 *silence, but not silent* Not a heavy silence, where you hear the things that aren't being said, but the silence of peace, of shared pain and traveling down the same road. *silence, but not silent*
Not a heavy silence, where you hear the things that aren’t being said, but the silence of peace, of shared pain and traveling down the same road.

]]> By: m http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18589 m Mon, 12 Jan 2009 22:02:21 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18589 I recommend that you start watching The City and U.S. of Tara (that new show on Showtime... I think there's only 1 episode). They're both at the beginning of their respective series (The City has 3 episodes available OnDemand & the other 1 only has 1 episode). I bonded hardcore with TV this past week and those shows were mindless and addicting. It's too cold out now to socialize anyway! I recommend that you start watching The City and U.S. of Tara (that new show on Showtime… I think there’s only 1 episode). They’re both at the beginning of their respective series (The City has 3 episodes available OnDemand & the other 1 only has 1 episode). I bonded hardcore with TV this past week and those shows were mindless and addicting. It’s too cold out now to socialize anyway!

]]> By: jordanbaker http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18588 jordanbaker Mon, 12 Jan 2009 21:56:31 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18588 There needs to be some sort of international symbol for "hug" so I can put that here and not have to say anything. There needs to be some sort of international symbol for “hug” so I can put that here and not have to say anything.

]]> By: Kristabella http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18587 Kristabella Mon, 12 Jan 2009 19:51:24 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18587 I'm not going to say anything to make it better. Just want to sat that Elizabeth Corday is returning to ER this week. And I may have let out a SQUEEE at the TV when I saw this. And you are the only other person on the planet that watches ER, so I had to share. I’m not going to say anything to make it better. Just want to sat that Elizabeth Corday is returning to ER this week. And I may have let out a SQUEEE at the TV when I saw this. And you are the only other person on the planet that watches ER, so I had to share.

]]> By: jodifur http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18586 jodifur Mon, 12 Jan 2009 19:33:00 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18586 I'm sorry for what you are going through. I’m sorry for what you are going through.

]]> By: ahny http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18585 ahny Mon, 12 Jan 2009 19:00:08 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18585 I have not experienced this grief, but have suffered from depression my whole life. I just deal with the "I'm am not moving off my couch or speaking to anyone..." time periods by allowing myself to stop feeling guilty. You're already miserable, don't beat yourself up...it's ok to be sad. I have not experienced this grief, but have suffered from depression my whole life. I just deal with the “I’m am not moving off my couch or speaking to anyone…” time periods by allowing myself to stop feeling guilty. You’re already miserable, don’t beat yourself up…it’s ok to be sad.

]]> By: Amy http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18584 Amy Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:57:21 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18584 If you feel a sudden trip to Portland would help out, let me know. Martinis will be my treat. Other than that, I've got nothing....just best wishes for comfort. If you feel a sudden trip to Portland would help out, let me know. Martinis will be my treat.

Other than that, I’ve got nothing….just best wishes for comfort.

]]> By: Amy http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18583 Amy Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:50:36 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18583 http://www.shamanlinks.net/Soul_Retrieval.htm it may sound far fetched, but this one ceremony brought me more relief from my own grief, fear, trauma, need for forgiveness, etc... than years and years of therapy ever did. not sure where you live but there are folks doing shamanic work all over the world. it's very healing stuff. http://www.shamanlinks.net/Soul_Retrieval.htm

it may sound far fetched, but this one ceremony brought me more relief from my own grief, fear, trauma, need for forgiveness, etc… than years and years of therapy ever did. not sure where you live but there are folks doing shamanic work all over the world. it’s very healing stuff.

]]> By: chris http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18582 chris Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:11:04 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18582 I'll just come over with vodka and snacks and sit quietly on your couch. I’ll just come over with vodka and snacks and sit quietly on your couch.

]]> By: catootes http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-18581 catootes Mon, 12 Jan 2009 18:09:41 +0000 http://www.notyetawino.com/2009/01/depths-or-no-hotline-number-needed-dear-readers-its-simply-a-slice-of-time/#comment-18581 1 year, 3 years. No matter the timeline. The grief wells up at unexpected moments and pulls us under. There are no norms for grief, there are only memories and the want for that person back in your life. cut yourself some slack. My Mom died June 04, my Dad died Dec. 06, my nephew Feb. 08. There is grief in most days. It takes a longer time to pass through the haze than anyone wants to admit. 1 year, 3 years. No matter the timeline. The grief wells up at unexpected moments and pulls us under. There are no norms for grief, there are only memories and the want for that person back in your life.
cut yourself some slack.

My Mom died June 04, my Dad died Dec. 06, my nephew Feb. 08. There is grief in most days. It takes a longer time to pass through the haze than anyone wants to admit.

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