Comments on: Room with a view

By: Paige Jennifer

Paige Jennifer — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 20:24:37 +0000

Note: I know RR didn’t mention this because he’s just too classy to even think this is an issue but I’d like to also suggest that men refrain from ball adjusting while on a date.

By: Circle City Girl

Circle City Girl — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 20:11:36 +0000

Love the blog… really entertaining! Hope you have an awesome New Year!

By: KB

KB — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 23:02:03 +0000

“Do say thank you to everyone who serves you – this is a repeat but it bears repeating”

NOTHING is hotter than a guy who is nice to the waitstaff. You wouldn’t believe how many men are not…

By: auntie

auntie — Wed, 31 Dec 2008 21:06:47 +0000

Excellent info/advice for all! I love it when a date is able to do all those chivalrous things so smoothly that I don’t even realize it’s happening…he’s always magically one step ahead of me when we get to a door so he can open it for me without tripping all over me (and himself), when the server delivers the bill he reaches for it effortlessly as if he was reaching for his water glass…that sort of stuff shows me that he’s not just on his best behavior for our first meeting but that someone taught him those things a long time ago, and I know I’ll be treated like a lady every time we’re together.

By: Joanne

Joanne — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 17:28:10 +0000

Love it! And from relationship experience I can safely say this does not just cover first dates – 5 years and counting and im seriously thinking of printing out this post and sticking it to the fridge! (the beer fridge that is) x

By: Nathan Pralle

Nathan Pralle — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 18:17:42 +0000

Great! Now all I need is the dough to take my woman out on a fancy date. :) Nah, seriously, good points all around. A pity that more people aren’t taught properly the finer points of dining and taking a date on a nice night. It’s becoming a lost art.

By: wildbill

wildbill — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 13:46:29 +0000

I like the advice but I don’t usually invite someone to dinner on the first date Usually drinks first & see where that takes us. I really think it’s more important to get to know the person & see if you have a connection. The whole, trying to get to know you in a formal dining experience never worked for me. I think that’s best saved for the 2-? dates, when you’re both Comfotable with each other.

I agree with everyone ekse- Don’t be a Tool should be the 1st thing on the list!

By: Beth

Beth — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 04:49:16 +0000

Love, love, LOVE this…

As for “being a gentleman”, I think that in this day and age, both men and women get stuck trying to balance between women’s rights/equality and men being chivalrous. From the time kids are in Jr. High/High School, it is no longer the norm for a boy to ask a girl on a real, honest-to-goodness date…even for major events like Homecoming and Prom everyone goes in groups. We have replaced the follow-up call from a first date with texting. Men have to be careful about how much they “play the gentleman” because of the wide range of response to these very rules/actions, as made obvious from the comments above.

Open a door for one woman, she thinks you are being pretentious, while another might be impressed.

Offer to pay the check and some will think you’re showing off or insulting our ability to pay our own way, while others think it would be cheap to do otherwise.

It seems there are no clear cut rules anymore. And thinking about all this, I’m not sure which side I would rather be on…you boys sure do have your work cut out for you.

By: Mike Licht

Mike Licht — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 01:55:45 +0000

The polite way to refuse an offer to split the check: “You get the next one.” (Smile).

The smile is compulsory, even when it means you both know damn well there will be no “next one.”

By: Cheat to Win

Cheat to Win — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 20:16:30 +0000

As a former waiter and a continued gentleman, he couldn’t be more spot on.

Very good job, I am thoroughly impressed.

By: sizzle

sizzle — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 00:45:24 +0000

I think “Don’t be a tool” is a basic rule for all situations.

;-)

By: Beth

Beth — Thu, 25 Dec 2008 00:18:29 +0000

Now, I know that many women disagree with me (as I’ve had this argument with friends before), but I take whole heartedly disagree with “Do not let her pay any part of the check (on the first couple of dates.)” I have an income, I can pay my own way, thank you very much. Same with ordering for her – give me a break!

By: kimmer

kimmer — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 17:45:12 +0000

Merry Merry Kris! Good vibes for all!

By: kimmer

kimmer — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 17:44:13 +0000

Had no idea there were so many rules about dating/dinner. Glad I am married, I just don’t wanna work that hard. Oy!

P.S. was this geared towards anyone in particular??? Hint? Hint?

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 14:12:40 +0000

“. . . She’ll have the house salad and a water. Please keep the rolls coming. Now, if you’ll excuse me, my phone is ringing. By the way, this wine is corked and we want a fresh bottle.”

By: lacochran

lacochran — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 23:51:31 +0000

I’m fine with my date ordering for me after finding out what I want. I find it really presumptuous when he just decides on his own and goes for it.

Also, if he must have his phone on, he should put it on vibrate and check it when I’m in the bathroom. For heavens sake, no texting in front of me.

By: Contaminating Someone Else’s Corner of the Interwebs « The Restaurant Refugee

Tue, 23 Dec 2008 23:15:53 +0000

[...] inspiration. Over the course of me distracting her via g-chat, Kris suggested that I give some advice to having good dates in restaurants. Take a minute to read my advice (geared towards men) if you wish; but more importantly I would [...]

By: Nick

Nick — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 23:00:48 +0000

Do have an idea of where to go when dinner is finished – two ideas are even better. A swank lounge for quiet conversation and a dive bar where you can throw back some beer and darts are both great post-dinner destinations.

By: Kevin Spencer

Kevin Spencer — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 19:26:04 +0000

I think you could have saved an awful lot of typing by just saying “don’t be a tool”. Still, an entertaining read nonetheless.

By: Bruce

Bruce — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 18:28:27 +0000

Good advice all in all. I do find it hard to sit with my back to the room though, I feel like I’ll end up the victim of a mob style hit.

By: ella

ella — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 17:33:05 +0000

Why don’t they teach this stuff to men when they are but mere boys? Seriously!

By: I-66

I-66 — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 16:35:31 +0000

As much as I would like to believe that much of this should be common sense, I know that common sense is not as common as it ought to be. Spot on.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 16:08:45 +0000

Know that because you have a Y chromosome you will get distracted by French fries, bright lights and shiny things. It is important that you reduce the appearance of potential distractions in your field of view. Get over your fear of a mob hit and sit with your back to the room. Besides being the generally courteous thing to do, it may also help you with your naturally wandering eye.

By: Katie

Katie — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 15:50:40 +0000

This is great! So what’s the best way to slip this list to a guy before the date?? ;)

By: Finn

Finn — Tue, 23 Dec 2008 15:03:02 +0000

“Don’t be a tool.” That pretty much says it all.