Comments on: The bar

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 14:36:44 +0000

You’ll find the right guy! You can do eet!

Happy Thanksgiving ( :

By: Cindabar

Cindabar — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 02:36:33 +0000

You write very, very well. I enjoyed reading your post.

A passerby on the superhighway…

By: t2ed

t2ed — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 21:26:53 +0000

Brie isn’t a stripper’s name. It’s Bree.

Or Tragedy.

Which is ironically what they all should be named.

By: Ulysses

Ulysses — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 04:10:13 +0000

The Gentleman is not mythical, though sometimes he borrows a mythological name…

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 22:42:54 +0000

I’m beginning to think that the Gentleman is a mythical creature much like el Chupacabra or the Yeti.

I’m a big believer in treat others as you would like to be treated and we all have every right to be with someone who is kind and considerate. Unfortunately I’m married to a farm animal who wouldn’t know chivalry if it opened the door for him.

By: Zandria

Zandria — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 18:30:17 +0000

I want someone who will stay interested after they find out that I (like everyone else in this world) is just a regular person.

By: Ulysses

Ulysses — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 13:43:39 +0000

Someone who is reflective and considerate.
Who sees the wonder of you and seeks it out.
Who can discern the feelings behind traditions and respects them, but doesn’t confuse that with respecting the traditions themselves.
Who knows some bad wines are still palateable when you drink them together, but not all.

By: gorillabuns

gorillabuns — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 05:50:35 +0000

Yea, where is this guy? I need him too.

By: hclark

hclark — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 21:48:30 +0000

So, if you find this guy will you ask him if he has a brother?

By: SMurF

SMurF — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:32:03 +0000

YEAH! I want that too!

I want a fancy Saturday night to be followed by a lazy sunday afternoon.

I really like your blog (I just typed you’re, but then I realized what I had done)

~SMurF

By: ella

ella — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 15:47:54 +0000

wooing is great, but even better if it lasts beyond courtship. i want to be wooed well beyond our 20th anniversary. it doesn’t have to stop once you say “i do.”

By: Ryane

Ryane — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 14:32:09 +0000

There are so many things about this post that I love and I agree with you, K…wholeheartedly. I know women are counseled against being too picky and etc., when dating, but given that at some point, a date might morph into a BF who shares your body and more besides, i just don’t think anyone can be too picky. So I say keep it up, my friend. You are an inspiration.

By: anne

anne — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 13:51:48 +0000

I can do both world easily as well. It’s funny if I think about it, my father did this for me, drunk shambles that he is now. He was a country kid but grew up to be very successful in a quiet way in the Silicon Valley. While his upbringing was strictly countrified, he dabbled in all things gentrified. I don’t think I realized until just this moment that he was trying to expose me to things that was a foreign as Chinese to my grandfather. Interesting. And even more interesting is guys who are so insecure they think because you might know or enjoy something about “finer” things that you are a snob. I’m glad I also think one of the finer things is good Mexican and a Dos Equis.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 06:21:55 +0000

I love this post. Particularly in conjunction with your latest tweet.

By: apathy lounge

apathy lounge — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 05:05:14 +0000

Preach it, sister! Preach it!

By: hkw

hkw — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 03:03:46 +0000

Yoga pants and socks that match. I would have pinned you for unmatching socks. I love this post :) It can be done.

By: Del-V

Del-V — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 01:59:04 +0000

The man-quivalent of sending flowers is getting Caps tickets.

By: m

Fri, 21 Nov 2008 00:46:02 +0000

this is why you’re not in a BAD, trashy relationship with a jerk who cheats on you and is more interesting in playing with his budddies. its also why you’re not settling for someone who bores you all the while wondering who else must be out there that you’re missing out on. lastly, it is also why it will take time to find such a man. and when you do, it will be all the sweeter.

By: Hilary

Hilary — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:48:53 +0000

I love this post.

By: LiLu

LiLu — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:44:21 +0000

I absolutely love this- what a perfect description of how I, and I’m sure many other women, feel. It is a difficult thing to find someone who complements that dichotomy, but a priceless achievement when you do.

By: trapped

trapped — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:19:01 +0000

One other thing. If you want a man to treat you like a lady, let him know you appreciate it occasionally. I’m not saying to say thank you every time he opens a door for you but every once in awhile just hold him around the waist, lean back, look him in the eyes and tell him he makes you feel like a lady and you love him for it. I’ve found that many women take it for granted and never are grateful.

It’s just nice to be appreciated at times.

Peace

By: Madame Meow

Madame Meow — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:18:25 +0000

There is nothing wrong with having high standards, Kris. You don’t want a douchebag: you want someone who is worthy of both your Yuengling and your Glenlivet, you know?

By: Kristabella

Kristabella — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:12:34 +0000

You and me are very similar, my friend.

You can like baseball and lite beer and fancy things. It is what makes you who you are. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. And wanting to be courted and treated will just makes you human. We should all expect, and give, as much.

By: Finn

Finn — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:10:27 +0000

For him — little love notes, making his favorite food for dinner even if you hate it, the random blow job when he’s not expecting it. Those are his courtesies, methinks. Gentlemen, correct me if I’m wrong.

Ah, to find a man who will accept me as am and not feel his manhood threatened by my independence and capability. There’s the rub.

By: Sassy

Sassy — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 21:06:50 +0000

But isn’t this normal for women today?
I mean, I can work on my car and drink beer with the guys, but I still want him to open doors for me and give me his jacket when I’m cold….