Comments on: grieving DC family seeks sleep.

By: Proinvestorsblog

Proinvestorsblog — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 05:32:00 +0000

That is unacceptable for a funeral home to treat you so cold, I work in the funeral industry, and as a funeral directory it is your job to be there for the family and to make the difficult time they are facing as easy on the family as possible.

By: Whimspiration

Whimspiration — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 06:02:00 +0000

LOVE! *hug*

By: Canaan

Canaan — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 02:06:00 +0000

I'm reading your blog for the first time, and these hit me close to home.

I completely understand the helpless, angry and lonley feeling of being at the funeral home and knowing your father is there. Alone. Not with you. It's something I didn' think words could explain.

I haven't been able to put into words what that's like to my friends, who haven't been through a loss of their father.

Thank you for your post. My dad past away in May 2006, and reading your blog is the most comfort I've had about it in a long time. I'm sorry for grief, it doesn't go away, but it gets easier to remember the happiness you had with him.

By: kerrianne.org

kerrianne.org — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 05:12:00 +0000

I know it’s little consolation right now, but I too am sorry for your loss. It sounds like your father was amazing. Thinking of you.

By: tallglassofvino

tallglassofvino — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 06:13:00 +0000

yes, the process is numbing, but the numbness is a layer of emotional protection, keep that in mind. it happens because we need it to happen, or we’d be torn asunder, and it thankfully eases off just about when we’re ready for it to.

again, I’m sorry for your loss. hang in there.

By: Dawn Allynn

Dawn Allynn — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 20:59:00 +0000

My heart goes out to you, I know the pain of this process well, and it so hard. At the loss of my niece I kept thinking how I hoped that it could be more personal for my children if they lose me, I so hope they could have the joy of my life to remember me by, not the little details that occur because of my passing.

My thoughts are with you.

Dawn
http://dawnallynn.blogspot.com/

By: k

Thu, 24 Jan 2008 19:44:00 +0000

i have no idea how you are managing to write anything about the experience at all. i’m awed.

(and thinking of you.)

By: Melliferous Pants

Melliferous Pants — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 18:33:00 +0000

Oh Kris. I am so sorry you are going through this.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

xoxo,

Pants

By: Wanderlusting

Wanderlusting — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 05:34:00 +0000

Sounds repetitive but I am SO sorry for your loss. I’ve lost a lot this month too and I don’t know what I would do if I lost my mom, dad or bf. You are in my thoughts and prayers :)

By: Kim

Kim — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 01:59:00 +0000

What's wrong with Hootie? I happen to like him and his blowfish. Don't hate.

And you can't tell me American Idol didn't help. ;)

Here for you, sweetpea.

By: Blue

Blue — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 01:08:00 +0000

Thinking of you and yours, Kris. Have been through this and it sucks big time. (((((((((((hugs and good thoughts))))))))))))))))

By: t2ed

t2ed — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 00:24:00 +0000

I’m very, very sorry. To go along with your tv theme, have you talked to either the guys at Six Feet Under or Pushing Daisies?

While not knowing him, I like to think your Dad would have approved of the big dance number. It would have been tasteful. As far as you know.

By: bandick

bandick — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 23:33:00 +0000

Oh. Krisser. I'm so, so sorry. I've been absent for a while dealing with, what turns out to be, inconsequential shit.

There is nothing to say. Stupid jokes are all I know, but there are none stupid enough to make this funny.

I love you, Krisser. You've always been my bosom blogger.

By: Keith

Keith — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 22:27:00 +0000

Yeah, this time really sucks, but it will be over soon enough. *hugs*

Oh and Hootie? Why Hootie? You need cheerier music, :)

By: TexInTheCity

TexInTheCity — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 21:27:00 +0000

Ghost Whisper. Now THAT is the way to go. You are chillin with Melinda and your loved ones and as soon as your done making nice-nice you get “the light.” Although now that I think about it, my dads light was most likely the big screen with CNN!

Trying to keep it light for you,
Tex

By: Jorge

Jorge — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 20:34:00 +0000

I've actually been reading a lot about the "sterility" of death ritual lately. I've also been listening to a lot of interviews, of which there are a surprising number.

It's a horrible shame.

I've been trying to work on my will (unsuccessfully), and one of the details is how I want my death celebrated.

It's an eye-opening experience how little "humanity" is left in some of the funerals (and funeral homes) i have visited (too many, really).

In these situations I find it helpful to allow my mind to wander, picturing how the deceased may really wish to spend their final days - the days between death and closure. Maybe it's my imagination, but I feel that at times I have connected with that person spiritually, to say my own goodbye.

I really wish that I would have been lucky enough to meet the man that brought such an awesome person into the world.

I mean, everyone should meet some Canadians at some point, right?

By: Kelly

Kelly — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 20:26:00 +0000

Lots of love, honey.

By: Amyella

Amyella — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 20:08:00 +0000

I hug you.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 20:00:00 +0000

i know it's been said, 100 times over....

but i'm so sorry for your loss, kris.

take care of yourself and your family. you are all in my thoughts.

By: Frankly, Scarlett

Frankly, Scarlett — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 18:10:00 +0000

I can’t imagine how sad and numbing this experience must be.

My heart goes out to you, really.

By: Chantel

Chantel — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 17:50:00 +0000

Yes; my Sisters and I used the funeral arrangement time to have the “big fight” that’s been brewing for years. All very dramatic; all extrememly funny. Although I think the poor funeral guy was mortified at our psychotic family dynamic.

By: gorillabuns

gorillabuns — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 17:45:00 +0000

unfortunately, i'm the one that ALWAYS has to take care of such decisions, paperwork and everyone else's grief. i've become quite a vision of detachment during such times and only concern myself with making sure i don't dump someones remains in my car as i take a corner to fast.

thinking of you and raising my nightly cocktails to you and your family.

**cheers and hugs!**

By: HKW

HKW — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 16:31:00 +0000

My heart aches reading this and it goes out to you

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 14:37:00 +0000

Thinking of you.

By: Tyra

Tyra — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 13:54:00 +0000

Today marks 11 weeks since my father died. The news is both good and bad when I say that your pain is proportionate to your love for your father. If time heals all wounds as they say, it must be a long time. I share your pain and my thoughts are with you.